We Need A Little Respect Around Here


“Respect gives a positive feeling of esteem or deference for a person….To feel or show deferential regard for; to esteem. I’m not concerned with your liking or disliking me… All I ask is that you respect me as a human being”. -Jackie Robinson

I’ve been using social media for some years now, and I can say that it has made my work and networking easier. I have definitely met people who have impacted my life and who have taught me life lessons along the way. Facebook used to be my default social networking platform. My migration from Facebook to Twitter was not easy, but after @MrBankole introduced and explained it to me, I fell in love with Twitter. But I am not here to write about my love for Twitter.

As much as I love the liberty to share thoughts, I have an issue with tweeps (Twitter users) who display a lack of respect for other users. A couple of weeks back, I came on my timeline (TL) to see a tweep insulting and talking down another tweep. I was mortified and angry, but as usual, I didn’t say anything, because it looks like it is becoming a norm – an acceptable practice – in the tweet sphere to be disrespectful. I find this really sad. 

Now, while you and someone may have conflicts, it is bad taste to get on your TL to insult and sometimes curse at them. This is a really shameful thing. Like the quote above says, you don’t need to like me or dislike me. All I ask is to be treated like a human being. Yet I see people meet others on Twitter, and because of difference of opinion, they talk the other person down. My question is, If it were a member of your family, is that how you will talk to the person? To make matters worse, you will see an undergraduate calling a business executive names, all because he/she dignifies by following or interacting with them.

A Word to Disrespectful People

Truth be told, there are some people who follow you that if you met in real life, you won’t even be able to say anything, not because they are gods, but in the hierarchy of life, they are big and you are far down the ladder. Some of these people you talk down at are much bigger than you in real life. Their impact on the society is much more than you can fathom. Were some of them to list their qualifications and achievements, your BSc would be just a piece of paper in comparison. This is why I don’t blame some tweeps who won’t exchange tweet-chat with you because they value their integrity.

From a different angle, how would you feel if a tweep you have insulted and cursed at happen to be the Personnel Manager of a firm you are applying to for a job? You already know the answer, I suppose. You can disagree with someone without being silly about it. Imagine a 23-year old tweep hurling insults at a 36-year old tweep, all because they disagree. If they were your family, would you dare such? Leave social media out of this, our culture is laced with respect for elders and vice versa.

Lastly, to the “Overlords”, your followers are privileges. Were your five thousand followers to just un-follow you, who would you be tweeting at? Treat them with respect. In the words of Albert Einstein “Everyone should be respected as an individual, but no one idolized”.


I am @famuyideolawale 

I am a reader, not a writer



13 thoughts on “We Need A Little Respect Around Here

  1. Sir, thanks for sharing my mind. Like minds think alike. Like you said, its fast becoming a norm, a tradition. People’s inability to grow up morally is the root cause.

  2. Thumbs up to the reader who aint a writer…
    “Owo diê diè lara nfe looto.” The body sure deserves little respect.

    1. Being Civil cannot be over-emphasised.

      Making a difference for the good of all is no easy task. It takes courage and determination, but many extraordinary and ordinary people do it.

      The real achievers have been compassionate and respectful.


      1. When morality is lost, then, societal manace, starts, thanks Uncle Ayo, you added another angle to it.

      2. “The real achievers have been compassionate and respectful.” Now that is great conclusion. Well said ma’am. Thanks

  3. Awesome!!!!!!
    So true! Well said. I hope ‘dem tweeps n overlords see this.
    Errm….you should write more often, Mr. Wale. 🙂
    Enjoyed this.

  4. This issue cannot be over-emphasized. I belong to the school of thought which believes in showing other as much respect as we would love to be shown.

    Also i’ve learnt to stay in my lane and cultivate the friendship of people who believe same.

    Good piece bro

    1. “learnt to stay in my lane” lol. Staying in our lanes is good….but one do need to get out of our lane to stretch ourselves to influence people even in arguments……influence without being judgmental nor abusive. Nice thought sir. Thank you.

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