You can quit! No one needs you to be a hero.

Winners Never Quit, and Quitters Never Win

Have you ever heard people saying “don’t quit, “don’t stop”, “don’t give up” I have heard it over and over again, I believe it and have tried to live by it…..yes ‘tried’!!!

images(1)“Tough times never last…Tough people do”

How do you know when to throw in the towel? Sometimes, while trying to be a hero, we cause more harm than good, to ourselves and to the people around us. We want to get things done at all cost without looking at the ripple effects. We keep toughening our muscles till it gets torn and we burn out. We push and shove until we are completely spent and overwhelmed.  We believe the quitters are weak and therefore, whenever we notice that we are slowing down, and the steam is drying up, we push ourselves harder and harder. Quitting can be a good thing when to keep going will deplete you of useful and much needed energy.

Have we noticed how we get frustrated and bitter each time we appear to be slowing down? We want to achieve our targets at all cost and by every possible means, even if it causes us injury either physically, mentally or emotionally. Don’t get me wrong, I am not against perseverance, but while we persevere, we should always apply wisdom. Knowing your capability and strength helps to know when to pause and re-think…..and when to stop outrightly. I have been at a stage where I got stuck with a project spending hours and days trying to “conquer” it while leaving other stuff undone. It was until I let go and faced the other project, that the solution to the previous project came. The persistence required to achieve hard-to-reach goals may not be worth it.  We all do need a breather. And sometimes a change of direction and purpose is required. We need to get out of the heroism confinement and smell the air. Its okay to pause….stop and give yourself that much needed break.

Our take is that persistence is good, but there are times where the most adaptive thing is to say is,This goal is not going to work out’ – Miller and Wrosch 

Whether it’s a difficult project, a failing relationship, an unhappy marriage, a job that’s going nowhere or something as simple as a boring book, we sometimes stick with a doomed endeavor longer than we should in order to justify our original decision and the time, money, or effort we’ve already put into it. How many of us set unrealistic expectations for ourselves? Sometimes quitting is strategic, and sometimes it can be your best possible plan. 

Stop being so afraid of breathing and letting things go. Every time you play the hero card, you are jeopardizing the next game.

I am @famuyideolawale

I am a reader not a Writer.

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18 thoughts on “You can quit! No one needs you to be a hero.

  1. Short, simple and straightforward. Quitters in the quote aboved so used however refers to those who are perpetually fond of turning back at the faintest hint of difficulty in their quest to get anything done in life. Such people truly never win. In all, wisdom is profitable to direct.

  2. Wisdom is the key word here. Knowing when to let go and when to hold on. Sometimes, you don’t have to give up totally; A break may just do the trick. Well done Oga Wale.

    1. This is the second time the am seeing the word WISDOM in d comment. Guess my next post should be on that. Thanks Ese. My Oga at the topmost.

  3. Dear Sir,its simple,precise and on point but will just add a little point.You can know when to quit if its a project ,failed relationship etc as long as they have no long term emotional or financial attachment ,But mostly in a Marriage with Children even when its obvious that its not working ,we still hang on there particularly Africans because of our children.I think taking a breather may not neccesarily mean leaving all totally but taking time to re-energise,re-strategies can also be a good idea.Well done Brov

  4. I feel you bro,

    but I cannot say something different than my oga at the top, @zebbook has said;

    We have too many quitters already! I think we need more finishers.

    BUT, one must be sure that the dream is from God before embarking on the task. That way quitting would not be an option.

    On the issue of marriage, I totally disagree: there are too many quitters there as well. We need people who are ready to make real the covenant of marriage. During courtship, by all means! But it marriage, we must sweat it out : )

    But good one trying to question conventional wisdom. However, something made that wisdom conventional!

    Good piece. I liked the simplicity and coherence of thought!

    1. Ese, when did u start jelux? Oya pls famzy her, before she ban me from posting my thoughts here. Eseosa, mama ni yen

  5. Dear Sir,its simple,precise and on point but will just add a little point.You can know when to quit if its a project ,failed relationship etc as long as they have no long term emotional or financial attachment ,But mostly in a Marriage with Children even when its obvious that its not working ,we still hang on there particularly Africans because of our children.I think taking a breather may not neccesarily mean leaving all totally but taking time to re-energise,re-strategies can also be a good idea.Well done Brov

  6. I agree with you here…I had learnt long time ago the concept of ‘quiting’ and how to apply it though i must add, the concept is more of art than science.

    Great piece, btw when are you going to stop this reader-writer farce. Your posts cry otherwise.

    Thumbs up.

  7. “…..the concept is more of
    art than science.” I like this, its an art, which we must daily apply ourselves to, there is no basic formular, each must discover his/her thumb screw. And sir, am still a reader, but I can point you some of writer who are the ogas at the top. Thanks for your comment.

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