Winners Never Quit, and Quitters Never Win”
Have you ever heard people saying “don’t quit, “don’t stop”, “don’t give up” I have heard it over and over again, I believe it and have tried to live by it…..yes ‘tried’!!!
How do you know when to throw in the towel? Sometimes, while trying to be a hero, we cause more harm than good, to ourselves and to the people around us. We want to get things done at all cost without looking at the ripple effects. We keep toughening our muscles till it gets torn and we burn out. We push and shove until we are completely spent and overwhelmed. We believe the quitters are weak and therefore, whenever we notice that we are slowing down, and the steam is drying up, we push ourselves harder and harder. Quitting can be a good thing when to keep going will deplete you of useful and much needed energy.
Have we noticed how we get frustrated and bitter each time we appear to be slowing down? We want to achieve our targets at all cost and by every possible means, even if it causes us injury either physically, mentally or emotionally. Don’t get me wrong, I am not against perseverance, but while we persevere, we should always apply wisdom. Knowing your capability and strength helps to know when to pause and re-think…..and when to stop outrightly. I have been at a stage where I got stuck with a project spending hours and days trying to “conquer” it while leaving other stuff undone. It was until I let go and faced the other project, that the solution to the previous project came. The persistence required to achieve hard-to-reach goals may not be worth it. We all do need a breather. And sometimes a change of direction and purpose is required. We need to get out of the heroism confinement and smell the air. Its okay to pause….stop and give yourself that much needed break.
Our take is that persistence is good, but there are times where the most adaptive thing is to say is,‘This goal is not going to work out’ – Miller and Wrosch
Whether it’s a difficult project, a failing relationship, an unhappy marriage, a job that’s going nowhere or something as simple as a boring book, we sometimes stick with a doomed endeavor longer than we should in order to justify our original decision and the time, money, or effort we’ve already put into it. How many of us set unrealistic expectations for ourselves? Sometimes quitting is strategic, and sometimes it can be your best possible plan.
Stop being so afraid of breathing and letting things go. Every time you play the hero card, you are jeopardizing the next game.
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