RT @Anabagail: K “@iDOVA: Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable.”
So I came across that tweet few days ago. I wanted to add “be very afraid” to it, but on the second thought, I decided to ignore it and scroll up to other tweets. But I kept remembering that particular tweet and I decided to have a chat with myself and ask around.
Vulnerability does not mean being weak
or submissive. To the contrary, it implies the courage to be yourself. It involves uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure.
Most of us shy away from being vulnerable, but the truth is that, it’s part of development and forms part of our social relationships. Opportunities for vulnerability present themselves to us every day, the question is whether we will take them. We fear Vulnerability because we are scared of what people will find out about us and they may reject us. In order to be vulnerable, you have to be okay with all of you. That’s the thing about vulnerability that no one tells you about. Nobody likes to be misunderstood or taken for granted so we hide the real us. While self-sufficiency and autonomy can help us weather the storms of life, it can also rob us of true intimacy.
“God, grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change,
courage to change the things I can,
and wisdom to know the difference.”
– Reinhold Niebuhr
“There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are messengers of overwhelming grief… and of unspeakable love.” – Washington Irving
No one likes to feel like a fool and no one likes to be hurt. No one likes to be criticized or have their faults pointed out or used against them. With vulnerability, you experience true connection— true love for yourself—and you begin to attract people to you who are inspired by your openness. C.S Lewis wrote “ to love at all is to be vulnerable.” Let me rephrase that. To live at all is to be vulnerable. We must learn to trust ourselves. It takes courage.
I am Olawale
I am a Reader
Thank you Bode afeniforo for choosing the title.